Do you attach yourself to the outcome of every new opportunity, relationship, or situation that comes up for you? Did you know that you have the ability to let go of potential outcomes rather than put yourself through emotional torture waiting and wondering what a particular outcome will be?
Most people are not aware they can make the choice to let go of potential outcomes and save themselves a lot of grief when they do. Here’s an example of one many people experience. See if you see yourself or someone you know in it:
You apply for a new job and land an interview with the company and it seems to go great. Then you end up waiting days or even weeks to hear the outcome.
What are you doing while you wait? Are you fretting about whether or not you’ll get the job? Are you stressed out and losing sleep over it? Are you second-guessing your answers to interview questions?
Are you asking yourself, “What if I don’t get this job?” or “What if I didn’t answer the questions right” or any of many other questions that come up?
I’d be willing to bet there isn’t a soul out there that hasn’t experienced this in some form or another while waiting to learn an outcome they’ve attached themselves to.
Why do we do this?
Because we believe that everything good that happens to us revolves around other people, outside circumstances, or perhaps even a stroke of luck.
“The reason many people in our society are miserable, sick, and highly stressed is because of an unhealthy attachment to things they have no control over.” ~ Steve Maraboli
Most of us don’t really understand the real reason we attach to potential outcomes is because we fear not having whatever that outcome may bring, and again, we rely on other people and outside circumstances–and yes maybe even luck–when we want something to go our way.
Then when we’re attached to and waiting for that outcome, fear causes us to stress, second-guess ourselves, go down the “what if” rabbit hole, and to beat ourselves up and feel bad.
Isn’t it time to let go?
Isn’t it time to let go of potential outcomes? Isn’t it time to stop attaching to things we have no control over? I sure think so, and I’m not saying it’s easy, but it can be done.
The first step in the right direction is simply being aware it is a choice. Armed with that new awareness, you can begin to work towards letting go of potential outcomes completely by reminding yourself that whatever will happen will happen with or without your chaotic emotional drain.
If you spend some quiet time with yourself and remind yourself that outcomes will happen as they will happen with or without you worrying or stressing about them, you’ll realize the truth in it and learn to let go.
This is the one that works best for me, and it does take some determination to let it all go, but I do because I know whatever will be will be, and if it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be.
The point of writing this article about detaching from outcomes is to make you aware that you don’t have to stay attached to outcomes and make yourself miserable in the process.
Be aware that you can make the choice to let go of potential outcomes
Being aware or conscious of the fact that you can make the choice to let go and detach from outcomes is life changing. You’ll be able to let them go before going into any situation, which will allow you to be relaxed and at your best while waiting for and even after the outcome.
Why? Because you now know that you have no control over the outcome and also because you now have the understanding that things work out the way they’re meant to.
Although I’ve repeated the message here a few times, it’s done with good intentions and to drive that message home. In the future, do your best to make the choice to let go of potential outcomes of any kind and instead just relax and know that whatever is meant to be will be.
“You don’t need strength to let go of something. What you really need is understanding. ~ Guy Finley
Author Bio: Peggy Nelson is a certified professional Life and Personal Development Coach, the founder of www.PeggyNelson.net (formerly Life Your Way Coaching), a published author, and an avid blogger. Her mission as a professional coach is to help people access that part of themselves that allows them to get out of their own way and shift their thinking, release fear at every level, experience personal growth and empowerment, and ultimately create fulfilling, happy, and successful personal and professional lives they love. To learn more about Peggy and what she offers or to follow her blog or schedule a free get acquainted session with her, please visit her website at www.PeggyNelson.net.