Deal With Stress

The Zen Approach: How To Master What You Think, Feel and Do

balanceHow you act is based on how you think. If you’re saying, feeling, or doing things that don’t reflect the real you, the higher you, the you that you desire to express – it’s because your thinking is off. Your thoughts control your feelings and they control your actions. And it’s not about what you think; it’s about how you think – which is about not thinking at all. This is the Zen approach to self-control. In Zen, less is more and nothing is best. Here’s why: The more you “think” the less intelligent and effective you are because all thinking is of the lower personality, and your personality, of itself, couldn’t think its way out of a paper bag. Most all the mistakes you make in life can be traced to this.

“Thinking” that something is so doesn’t mean it is, but “knowing” it’s so does. Your personality is not of itself, so can’t think with clarity of itself. Remember, you have two selves: a lower personal self and a higher subconscious self. “Thinking” is of the personality, while “knowing” is of the subconscious. The two must work in conjunction for thinking to be true, right and effective. Without a foundation of subconscious knowledge to guide your thinking, your thinking is baseless and uninformed.

The subconscious can’t express except through the personality, and personality can’t without the knowledge or knowingness that comes from your subconscious source. You are a two-in-one interdependent team. The secret to living in intelligent and powerful reality is to come from your team rather than personality alone. This is the thing that needs to be changed about the way you’re thinking and living. This then becomes your primary discipline or meditation. “Primary” means it’s the central, reality-based way of living from which you can’t deviate. To deviate from it would be deviating from reality along with the self-control that comes with it.

This discipline is practiced by witnessing your thinking when and as it happens. You practice it both sitting alone and as you go about your daily business. You are not to do anything else with your mind. Just watch your thoughts come and go as you would clouds passing over head. Think nothing of them. Don’t take them serious. Don’t take them personal. Just detachedly watch them from a distance as if having an out of mind/body experience. Don’t interfere with them. Don’t judge or evaluate them. Let thought be just thought — totally detached and distinct from your awareness of it.

The goal and strategy is to keep your “witness” as pure as possible so as not to contaminate the knowing-rather-than-thinking process. As you continue this pure witnessing, thoughts stop on their own. Your mind becomes silent and still, and that’s when knowing-instead-of-thinking starts happening. It’s amazing! What happens is thinking prevents access to and expression from the higher subconscious. Now that you know better you can think and express better. You are no longer ignorant. Now what comes out of your mouth is from your heart as well as your head. And this combination is the very basis of your peace, joy and creative power.

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How to Relax and Focus Your Mind in Minutes

BeautyAttention deficit disorder has almost become an epidemic in our information overloaded society. Unlike the brain, your mind has no boundaries and can be “scattered all over the place”. There are many ways to relax and focus your mind. All intense exercise or mental games like chess or billiards will help focus your mind. However, most people don’t have the time to jog for 5 miles or shoot a game of pool when they most need to focus.

To be successful it is important to understand that your mind is not your brain. Your brain is the physical apparatus that tunes in and expresses your mind. Your brain can identify a joke, but your mind has a sense of humor. Your brain is similar to a television set, it is a receiver of the airwaves that carry information. Your mind is the airwaves (information) of your consciousness.

Your mind is pure consciousness. It is a non tangible energy which includes your thoughts, feelings, imagination, creativity, memories, hopes and dreams. Your brain is a receiver that helps organize, plan and express your mind’s information. Knowing how to relax and focus the energy of your mind can help you make trustworthy decisions and live a more productive and peaceful life. Here are simple and easy methods to help relax and focus your mind in minutes. Pick and choose any one of the following techniques to do alone or if you are really scattered then do all five in the sequence I’ve listed below.


Take a short pause from your daily activity. Begin by inhaling a deep breath through your nose and exhale slowly through your mouth. On your exhale, mentally say the word “relax”. Repeat 3-4 times. Next focus your awareness on what has captured your attention. What are you thinking / worrying about? Is your mind in the past or the future? Are you thinking about someone in particular? Explore what has captured your attention and then repeat the breathing exercise above to release it with your breath.


This exercise will help you gain clarity and perspective. Find some notebook paper to write down your thoughts. This will help you slow down your thinking and release what’s “on your mind”. As you write, remind yourself… “I have these thoughts… I am not my thoughts; I have feelings… I am not my feelings.” Let the words flow out of you without editing or being concerned with grammar or spelling.

To clear your consciousness express in writing what’s on your mind. Then take these papers and destroy them. This is why I suggest notebook paper versus a journal. Tear them up… throw them away… flush then down the toilet or burn them. You want to destroy the writing with gusto and intensity. Mentally tell yourself, “I am letting go of these thoughts and feelings. I am freeing my mind.”

An important fact, you can not write as fast as you think, so when you write down your thoughts, you will slow down your thinking automatically. This is one of the benefits of journalling.


Take a few moments and hum the lyrics of a favorite song. Concentrate on remembering the lyrics and feeling the vibration of humming in your chest and throat. This will benefit you in two ways: 1. Concentration and remembering will focus your mind. 2. The vibration of humming will ground you into the sensation of your physical body. It is great and you can do this anywhere. After a few minutes you’ll feel a difference.


Close your eyes. Take in 3 deep breaths and relax. Imagine a “basketball size” sphere of golden white light hovering above your head. Use your imagination to see it, feel the warmth radiating down on the top of your head. Next imagine this sphere is slowly lowering, touching the crown of your head. Take another deep breath and bring the sphere down inside your head and imagine it is absorbing all the scattered thoughts and dissolving them. Focus on the light and sense it filling your mind with peace and comfort. After a few minutes open your eyes and go back to your activities. To experience a relaxed focused state of mind, learn how to meditate using guided meditations.

Be Sensual.

Focus your attention on your five senses. This provides a mental boundary to contain your scattered mind. Being sensual simply means to be aware of your five senses. Smell the air, feel the temperature on your skin, listen to the sounds around you and to taste the food that you eat. Being sensual brings you into the present moment fast and effectively, and you’ll soon become more focused and productive. With the power of your mind you can make trustworthy decisions and experience greater mental control and inner peace.

Michaiel Patrick Bovenes. He is the author of a popular series of Guided Meditation CDs and MP3s that help people clear their minds of anxiety and their bodies of stress. His soothing voice and over 25 years of teaching guided meditation, he has helped thousands of people meditate in minutes, develop personal peace and connect with their inner power. Try his powerful meditation collection of Guided Meditations to relax your mind and body and start to feel great fast!

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