Deal With Stress

God Grant Me the Serenity to Accept the Stress I Cannot Change, the Courage to Change the Stress I Can, and the Wisdom to Know the Difference

SpiritualityStress can start in the work place and spill over into home life affecting marriages and parenting patterns.  Stress is linked to poor health in 150,000 people in 142 countries. ( ) It  causes heart disease, depression, sleep problems, rashes, mental health issues, anger and anxiety. It destroys job satisfaction and motivation. Stress  can sneak up on you. After a while you don’t notice the tension in your body or the increase in apprehension and anxiety.

What causes stress is different for everyone, but the common component is that there are things you can change and things you can’t to reduce your stress levels. Knowing and accepting  what you can and can’t change, in itself, is a powerful tool to reduce stress.

Things you can’t change You can’t always control things in your environment for example other peoples thoughts, feelings and behaviours, major life changes and some circumstances around your work environment.  Stress increases if you try to change the things you can’t.  For peace of mind it’s important to mentally let go of the things you cannot change.

You can change your actions  You can change your actions by meditating, exercising, going on holidays, and spending  time doing things you love. If you have poor work-life balance these sorts of activities are a must.

You can change your mindset You can relieve stress by changing the thoughts and ideas that are causing your perception of stress. You can engage a life coach to work with you on these unhelpful ideas or you work on them yourself with stress relieving  techniques.  I have shared some of these techniques  in a  previous article:  Positive thinking, affirmations and reading inspirational articles and quotes are also all helpful to change your mindset.

Learning to manage and reduce your stress levels is an essential life skill in the fast paced world we live in. The rewards are long lasting and the consequences of not reducing stress can be dire. We all need a certain amount of control in our lives to have peace of mind. Take control of your life and start changing the stress you can.


Author Bio: Allison Bright from Bright Life Coaching specializes in Work Life Balance solutions. Her 18 years personal development experience provides valuable insights and practical answers to everyday work life balance challenges. To receive free information and tips on work-life balance challenges go to

Deal With Stress

The Zen Approach: How To Master What You Think, Feel and Do

balanceHow you act is based on how you think. If you’re saying, feeling, or doing things that don’t reflect the real you, the higher you, the you that you desire to express – it’s because your thinking is off. Your thoughts control your feelings and they control your actions. And it’s not about what you think; it’s about how you think – which is about not thinking at all. This is the Zen approach to self-control. In Zen, less is more and nothing is best. Here’s why: The more you “think” the less intelligent and effective you are because all thinking is of the lower personality, and your personality, of itself, couldn’t think its way out of a paper bag. Most all the mistakes you make in life can be traced to this.

“Thinking” that something is so doesn’t mean it is, but “knowing” it’s so does. Your personality is not of itself, so can’t think with clarity of itself. Remember, you have two selves: a lower personal self and a higher subconscious self. “Thinking” is of the personality, while “knowing” is of the subconscious. The two must work in conjunction for thinking to be true, right and effective. Without a foundation of subconscious knowledge to guide your thinking, your thinking is baseless and uninformed.

The subconscious can’t express except through the personality, and personality can’t without the knowledge or knowingness that comes from your subconscious source. You are a two-in-one interdependent team. The secret to living in intelligent and powerful reality is to come from your team rather than personality alone. This is the thing that needs to be changed about the way you’re thinking and living. This then becomes your primary discipline or meditation. “Primary” means it’s the central, reality-based way of living from which you can’t deviate. To deviate from it would be deviating from reality along with the self-control that comes with it.

This discipline is practiced by witnessing your thinking when and as it happens. You practice it both sitting alone and as you go about your daily business. You are not to do anything else with your mind. Just watch your thoughts come and go as you would clouds passing over head. Think nothing of them. Don’t take them serious. Don’t take them personal. Just detachedly watch them from a distance as if having an out of mind/body experience. Don’t interfere with them. Don’t judge or evaluate them. Let thought be just thought — totally detached and distinct from your awareness of it.

The goal and strategy is to keep your “witness” as pure as possible so as not to contaminate the knowing-rather-than-thinking process. As you continue this pure witnessing, thoughts stop on their own. Your mind becomes silent and still, and that’s when knowing-instead-of-thinking starts happening. It’s amazing! What happens is thinking prevents access to and expression from the higher subconscious. Now that you know better you can think and express better. You are no longer ignorant. Now what comes out of your mouth is from your heart as well as your head. And this combination is the very basis of your peace, joy and creative power.