Deal With Stress

Procrastination – The Power of (RE) Commitment

Woman closing eyes while letting go of unhealthy expectationsMaking the right commitment is key to our success!

As you may have experienced first hand something almost magical happens when you first commit to a certain goal. The energy seems to flow, you feel excited and the momentum is strong.

Making the right commitment simply creates focus.

A (laser) focused mindset together with (laser) focused action steps, small or big, will definitely get the ball rolling in the right direction. Soon you will be able to taste and touch the harvest of your dedicated efforts.

However, making the right commitment has its own challenges.

Here are just a few of the common challenges, for example:

  1. Our commitment is not in alignment with our overall vision
  2. We tend to over-commit. We say “yes” too many times.
  3. We fall out of our commitment and start to self-sabotage it.

What do you do, when you are faced with any of these challenges?

First, let me say that each of these challenges could be the subject of an entire article on its own. For the purpose of this article, I will limit myself and give out just a few tips that will hopefully point you in the right direction.

Suggested solutions:

  1. Do a regular check in with your overall vision.  Ask yourself if your present commitments are in alignment with your overall vision. If you don’t have clarity about your overall vision, this would be the first place to start.
  2. Learn to prioritize and say “no thank you” some more.  Ask yourself if your commitments help bring your closer to the outcome that you are looking for. If not, you may need to prioritize your commitments and practice saying, “no thank you” more often; even if you feel tempted to say “yes”.
  3. Re-commit to your goals.  It is very easy to slip out of your commitment especially if the results you are looking don’t show up fast (enough).

It is also very common to start sabotaging your own goals.

Resistance and self-sabotage is very likely to show up just before a break through. You are best off if you recognize this as (an expected) part of the process and not let it stop you.

Keep in mind that the most successful people are those who work in a very focused and consistent manner. They are able to hold their overall vision even before it has become a success.

In the end, it is a (laser) focused mindset combined with the appropriate action steps that will produce the desired outcome that you are looking for.

Do you want to learn more about how to re-commit to your goals? Read my book, “Procrastination – 15 Strategies To Overcome Procrastination Today!” or join the “TODAY Challenge”. Learn more at

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Beat Depression

Beat Depression by Writing Your Own Story

teenage depression - teen woman sitting thinkingDoes your depression have a story? When we’re depressed, it can feel like we are stuck in mud. We may think we feel nothing. Yet, unable to move, all the anger, sadness, and frustration that lay beneath our depression are still there with us, with nowhere to go… unless we write them down.

You don’t have to have aspirations to be the next great novelist. Or maybe you do. But all of us have a story, and connecting with it and letting out the feelings it evokes can actually help us heal from old wounds, beat depression and make us more resilient to face the future.

Pouring out the pain.

The numbness of depression is not a happy state, but we may be using it as a barrier against deep emotional or even physical pain. You can’t hurt me in my cocoon, we might think. If no one can see me, in the dark, wrapped in my blanket, I am out of reach. I am safe.

The mere act of taking a pen and paper when we are hiding away may seem like too much to handle. But if we can start it, or even doodle, words will eventually come. With paper as your confidant, you can pour out whatever anguish you want to, releasing stress, cracking the cocoon, and opening up your soul.

Finding the gem in a memory.

Have you ever seen the excitement on the faces of archaeologists when they find some tiny ancient shard after digging for weeks in the dirt? Well when we write about some moment in our memory we may experience the same kind of joy.

As children we noticed the smallest things around us, things that as adults we hardly see. By writing about some moment in our own distant past, we can unearth and re-experience the smell of cookies baking, or the fun of finding a lady bug in the grass.

If the memory is a painful one, writing helps us understand what we learned, or remember that there were people who loved us just beyond our line of vision. Writing about a memory releases us from gripping it so tightly, and may allow us to forgive those who hurt us, or to forgive ourselves.

Our stories matter.

In her excellent e-book, Soul Writing, writer and teacher Claire J. De Boer encourages us to believe in the value of our own stories, and how important it is to write them down. When we suffer from depression, it is easy to believe there is nothing about our lives that matters. But writing down our stories, De Boer explains, opens us up to see the worth of every experience, and even how we can share them to help others as well.

Set your inner critic aside.

Writing can be difficult if you are dealing with deep emotions. But there is no need to make it more so by worrying if you are doing it right. When you are writing from your soul there is no right or wrong. This writing is just for you. If you decide someday to share it, you can edit it then. For now, just get the words down and let the feelings flow.

The truth is in there.

Sometimes expressing yourself is easier if you know who you are talking to. So you might want to try writing letters to someone who is gone from your life, sharing things you meant to say. Or you might invent characters you know will listen without judging, and pour your heart out to them.

When I was younger I used this imaginary reader idea, with unexpected results. The character, my wiser self, began to write back. It was just a device, of course, but it showed me that at least part of myself already had the answers I needed, if I would just take my own advice. There is wisdom inside all of us, if we’ll listen.

Do what works best for you.

You can write your own story as a journal, as a collection of memories, or rework them into fiction. The method does not matter. You can even write out angry feelings, burn them, and imagine releasing your bitterness as the ashes float away.

What matters is that you and your story are important, and the more you believe that, the less depression you will feel.

To read Claire J. De Boer’s free e-book, and learn more about the healing power of writing your own story, visit

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