Deal With Stress

The #1 Way to Simplify Your Hectic and Stressful Life

stress tipsLooking for ways to slow your hectic pace and just plain have more “you” time?  Most of us in today’s society are often exhausted from meeting the demands of both our personal and work lives day in and day out.  It seems we’re trying to beat the clock on a daily basis and most nights just drop into bed completely exhausted.  Expectations placed on us with kids, spouses, jobs, friends, and even extended families are getting to be more than we can handle and often times create stressful circumstances we tolerate or suffer through rather than just say no.

See if this sounds familiar.  You planned a quiet evening at home to relax and watch a good movie you know is on T.V.  Just as you were heading home from work on your way to that quiet evening, your phone rings and a friend insists you join him for a night out, or a family member calls and wants your attention for some drama going on in his or her life, or it’s your employer calling with an unreasonable last minute demand.  Rather than tell him or her you have a prior commitment and you’re unable to join them, you cave and agree to what they want even though all you want to do is have a night to relax at home and watch the movie.

Why do we let this continue until we end up stressed out, exhausted, and not enjoying life?  Simply put–we have trouble setting and exercising personal boundaries and instead just relinquish our personal power.

If you want to make a powerful change that will simplify and greatly improve your hectic and stressful life, here are the steps I recommend you take:

1) Remember to respect yourself and honor that respect.  When you develop a healthy (not arrogant) respect for yourself and live by it, other people learn they can’t take advantage of you.  Sure it’s great to be available at times when people really need you and you want to help, but remember you have your own life to live and you don’t have to give away your time and respond to every request or demand.  Respect yourself and others will, too;

2) Set boundaries.  Many of us have people we contend with each day that push the limits of what is acceptable in terms of expectations.  And, there are also those who we may not have regular contact with who contact us out of the blue and expect something of us.  Rather than give in to these types of expectations and force yourself to do something you don’t want or have time to do, set some personal boundaries and exercise them when necessary; and finally,

3) Learn to say no.  Sometimes you just have to say no.   Once you take your personal power back or get the power you never before let yourself exercise by setting boundaries, this isn’t so hard to do.  Stand your ground and say no.  You can and should of course be polite and suggest a rain check or tell the drama queen or king you will call them back when you can, etc., but don’t be pressured into anything.  Once you set your boundaries, expect them to be honored—not necessarily accepted, but honored.  With time, they will be accepted–if you hold your ground and are consistent in implementing them.

Remember, it’s your life.  Simplify it so you can enjoy it!

Author Bio: Peggy Nelson is a professional Intuitive Life and Law of Attraction Coach, owner and founder of Life Your Way Coaching, blogger, and published author.  Her mission is to help people access that part of themselves that allows them to shift their thinking, release fear at every level, experience personal growth and empowerment, and ultimately create fulfilling, happy, and successful lives they love.  To learn more about connecting with your intuition and the benefits of Intuitive Life and Law of Attraction Coaching or to schedule a free consultation with Peggy, please visit her website at

Deal With Stress

Anxiety And Stress: Which Bach Flower Remedy Is Best?

aromatherapy (1)Inspired by homeopathic medicine, the Bach Flower Remedy System has been found to be very helpful for the relief of negative emotional states such as anxiety and stress. The beauty of the Bach flower remedies is that they can be used as a self-treatment, at any time at home or at work.  They are safe to use with any medication, homeopathic remedy or herbal supplements.

Serious anxiety can be treated with pharmaceuticals, and some types are best treated with a combination of pharmaceuticals and psychotherapy.  Other types respond well with only psychological treatment. Whether the condition is mild or severe, alternative and complementary treatments can be used concurrently to help relieve the symptoms of stress and anxiety.

Relaxation training, breathwork and meditation can be used with any treatment or used alone for self-treatment.  Complementary therapies that can help with stress and anxiety include acupuncture, homeopathy, herbal medicine and Bach Flower Therapy.

Dr. Edward Bach, an English physician, developed a series of 38 flower remedies by looking to nature for flowers and plants that would heal the whole person. He was a successful conventional physician for many years, but became disappointed in concentrating on the symptoms of disease while ignoring the whole of the person suffering the symptoms. He believed that illness is caused by disharmony of body and mind, and that the symptoms are a manifestation of a negative emotional state.

There is little in the way of large double-blind studies on complementary and alternative therapies due to the expense, the lack of financial incentive, and the fact that modern technology so far is unable to measure the effect of treatments on the subtle energy levels.

Although conventional medical practitioners are largely unconvinced of the benefit of alternative therapies such as energy work, herbal medicine, homeopathic medicine and its offspring, Bach flower remedies, there is research which strongly suggests that the flower remedies merit further consideration.

Each of the 38 flower remedies developed by Dr. Bach is suggested as a remedy for a particular emotion or issue.  Two good reference books on how to use the flower remedies are The Bach Remedies Workbook and Bach Flower Remedies Step by Step. There are a number of sources for flower remedies, or you can make your own flower remedies at home.

Flower remedies have been found to be helpful as a treatment for the relief of anxiety. One of my favorites for the relief of stress or anxiety is Rescue Remedy, which is a blend of five different flowers. Rescue Remedy is an important remedy in the first aid kit for several of my friends who have animal rescue organizations.

The animals that come to them have often been through pain, loss and hunger. Some of the animals are brought to them to be re-homed due to a move or perhaps the death of the owner.  Even though those more fortunate ones have not been neglected or abandoned, the animals are grieving for the loss of their family and home. Rescue remedy helps them to recover from the trauma.

A local natural veterinarian offers the flower remedies in her clinic and will suggest them for her patients when needed.  She is very familiar with the skepticism of conventional doctors and veterinarians when it comes to homeopathic and flower remedies.  However, as a raptor rehabilitator certified by Fish and Wildlife Service, she treated owls and hawks that had contracted West Nile.  The experts who had scoffed at her treatments were surprised to find that the recovery rate of her wild winged patients was over 90 percent, compared to the Fish and Wildlife veterinarians’ rate of under 50 percent survival of their birds.

One of my teachers has suggested that we can gather healing energy just by gazing at a flower or plant with an open heart.  He recommends paying attention when we are especially attracted to, or curious about a particular plant or flower, and to always follow up by researching its medicinal qualities.

The foundation of therapies such as homeopathic, herbal, essential oils and flower remedies are all based on the concept of a whole harmony of mind, body and spirit.  These help the body to heal by addressing both the physical and subtle body, and help to restore balance and health on a deep level.  The flower remedies in particular are very safe to use for self-treatment, as they do no harm.  Despite skepticism in the conventional medical field, there is increasing evidence that they may be helpful as a treatment for anxiety.

I would love to hear about your ideas about using flower essences as a wellness practice.  Did it help you deal with stress and anxiety? If Please share your experiences in the Comments section below.


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