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Appreciation Is the Key to Cooperation

gratitudeDo you show sincere appreciation in every situation you can where someone does something nice for you, is helpful to you, or does something that benefits you in some way?

And, do you approach delicate situations with other people at work or in your personal life with appreciation for their strong points?  And are you understanding if they’re unable to live up to your immediate expectations?

What I’ve come to learn is that showing even the smallest amount of appreciation for someone in any situation can be the difference between a positive outcome or a just plain bad experience.

When we show appreciation for whatever it is that someone attempts to do for us, we’re likely to immediately get a positive response.  And likewise, if we are negative towards them, we’re likely to get a negative response that results in an overall bad experience for everyone.

And what’s the automatic response to being treated with appreciation?  A higher level of cooperation, a higher level of engagement, and a much more helpful attitude!

My husband and I experienced this just recently while trying to make a decision on a major appliance we had to replace.  We were in a big box store looking at various models and of course were eventually approached by an employee asking what she could help us with.

We were considering a couple different brands and asked her various questions we thought she’d be able to answer.  When she wasn’t sure about some things, we asked if she could check and told her we’d be happy to wait.

Her demeanor went from uncertain and why do I always get these people to friendly and helpful.  She went and inquired about the things we had asked about and soon returned with a smile and answers to our questions.

We thanked her for her help, ordered the appliance, and told her she had done a good job for us and that we appreciated it.  She in turn responded with gratitude for our patience and for visiting their store.

In fact, when I got home, I called the store to talk to the manager and let her know that we had visited the store and had a good customer service experience due to the willingness to go the extra mile by the person who waited on us.  She appreciated the call and assured me it would not go unnoticed.

This simple call to show appreciation for this employee will likely result in the employee being complimented by her manager for her good customer service and perhaps garner a written commendation for her employee file.

And, it will likely cause the employee to be proud of herself for providing good customer service and more importantly will likely carry over to future customer experiences.

Imagine what the world would be like if we all made a conscious effort to show appreciation for others for even the smallest of acts or behaviors or perhaps for no reason other than as a kind gesture.

The point of telling you this story and choosing this topic for my article is simple, and I believe it is summed up perfectly in the following quote:

“Appreciation can make a day—even change a life.  Your willingness to put it into words is all that’s necessary.” ~ Margaret Cousins

So who will you appreciate today?

Author Bio: Peggy Nelson is a certified Life and Personal Development Coach, a certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the founder of She is also a published author and blogger. Her mission as a professional coach is to help people get unstuck and get past whatever stands in the way of creating and living their best life.  She helps them shift their thinking, let go of stress and drama, change their perspective, view their life from a much larger lens, and ultimately create fulfilling, happy, and successful lives they love. To learn more about Peggy and coaching with her or to download her free eBook, follow her blog, or schedule a free get acquainted session with her, please visit her new website at

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3 Ways to Maintain Positive Focus (Even When Your Life is a Mess!)

Natchez Trail Through ForestDo you ever feel like everything is your life is negative? We all have times in our lives when everything seems to be going wrong, and during those times, it can be very easy to lose perspective. The temptation to curl up in a corner or pull the sheets over our heads is something that everyone has experienced at some time or another—whether we’d like to admit it or not. Instead of succumbing to the temptation, though, there are some coping strategies you can use to get through this hectic or emotional time in your life without losing your positive outlook.

                     1.       Focus on the small things.

Yes, we’ve been told not to sweat the small stuff, and that’s excellent advice. However, it’s not wise to ignore every minute detail. Sometimes when all the big things in your life seem to be falling apart (think finances, relationships, etc.), it can be very grounding to focus in on the things that are going right, however small they may seem. Are you thankful for the smell of freshly brewed coffee in the morning or a fall day that’s not too hot and not too cold? Though they may appear insignificant compared to the looming problems in your life, don’t make the mistake of ignoring them. You’d be surprised at how a moment of gratitude (over anything at all!) can transform your entire day.

                     2.       Reach out to others.

Many of us pride ourselves on holding things together even when things get tough. Determination and perseverance are great attributes, but when you find yourself struggling to keep a smile on your face, it may be time to reach out to those people in your life who you can count on to help. Not only will this ease the burden caused by excessive stress, but it will also serve as a reminder that you have a circle of support. We weren’t meant to do this life alone, so don’t try to. Reach out to those around you and allow yourself to feel gratitude for them. If you feel a tug of guilt, remind yourself that they too are benefiting from lending a helping hand.

                     3.       Find moments of quiet.

When problems arise in our lives, we often find ourselves scurrying around (either mentally or physically) trying to fix things. Though this is a natural human response, it can sometimes do more harm than good. What we really need in these tough times is the opportunity to experience quiet—to be alone with our true selves, whether it be through prayer or meditation or both. Practicing quiet on a regular basis can put you back in touch with your authentic self—you know, the one who is steadfast and untouched by these surface-level problems that have you feeling like you’re losing it!

When our lives get messy, it’s easy to get caught up in the drama. Don’t! Remember, everything in this life is temporary, so this too shall pass! Making an intentional effort to stay positive through tough times is a great spiritual practice and will pay off by granting you more strength and peace in the long run. As hard as it may be in the moment, make an effort to be thankful for these experiences that will leave you better off in the long run.

How do you maintain a positive focus in the midst of life’s ups and downs? Share your tips with us. Also, if you benefited at all from this article, be sure to share it with your friends!