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How to Beat Depression After a Breakup

There is an important message in negative emotionsYou used to go out or even lived together and made your plans for the future. So, now it’s even harder to admit this person is not in your life any longer. Yes,  life still goes on, but after a long relationship a breakup depression is inevitable. Recovery takes time, you just have to submit to it. However, there are several ways which can help you feel better.

1. Give a needed outlet to your emotions.

You can feel betrayed, angry, offended – realize that your emotions are natural. By accepting what you feel, you’ll cope with them faster. So, don’t hide your pain. Cry if you have to, share your feelings and thoughts with your close friends, express everything in a diary.

2. Hide everything that reminds you of your ex.

Take away your photos, romantic gifts and even your clothes if it reminds you of the past too much. Get it out of your house and store somewhere.

3. Sleep enough hours.

Sleep is one of the proven ways of healing depression. So, never reduce sleeping hours even if you don’t want to sleep so much – it slowly recovers you from the inside.

4. Go out with your friends and colleagues.

Remember that in your life there still are people who love and appreciate you. Try to devote more time to them. Even if you don’t feel like meeting someone, this is necessary for overcoming your depression. Also it’s a good idea to visit your parents. They will always listen to you and give useful pieces of advice.

5. Try to lead a more active life.

Spend more time not in social networks or watching movies, but walking or doing active sports: jogging, volleyball, tennis will perfectly do. When you do something active, your body produce endorphines – hormones which make you feel happier.

6. Analyze the past relationship and make a conclusion.

Very often the depression comes from uncertainty, but when you analyze what happened and what you learned from this relationship, it gives you a fresh view on the problem. So, write down everything you did wrong, what you learned and what you will do in your next relationship. This will change the focus and you will see the finished relationship not as the end of the world, but as one of the steps of your own life.

7. Consider going out for a date!

Yes, for the first time you won’t have any desire to communicate with the opposite sex. But dating will help you to get distracted from the catastrophe and will lead to a new relationship. Moreover, while communicating with different people, you will see there are many good, kind people among them, which will prevent you from being angry with the opposite sex if your ex treated you bad.

8. Visit a psychologist or a religious advisor if you feel you cannot overcome the depression on your own.

A professional will help you to find a way out from a depression and advise how to build relationships in the future.

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How to Help Someone Who Is Feeling Depressed

How to deal with stress at homeIt is very hard for those who have never suffered a depressive episode to truly understand how debilitating this state of mind can make the sufferer feel. From the outset it can seem as though the sufferers life is so perfect. You may even think ‘how can this person possibly be depressed with how successful, attractive, social and caring he/she is?’

However, depressive thinking is not rational. In this state it is easy to disqualify any positives and to focus on the issues that are creating the depressive episodes. No matter how much others highlight the positives, the depressed person will find it difficult to disengage from the negatives.

The main core feelings underlying depression:

Hopelessness

Helplessness

Worthless

Therefore, these are the areas that require focus when determining how to help someone who is feeling depressed.

Hopelessness

To assist with feelings of hopelessness, the individual needs to feel as though there is a manner in which he/she can take control. For instance, if a friend was feeling depressed about being single and having difficulty finding and sustaining a partner, the best support you could give would be to help her to regain self confidence and accompany her to places she is most likely to meet someone she is compatible with (such as joining a sporting club together, going out dancing together, hosting a dinner party with a potential single partner invited, or attending a social function together).

Giving your friend a feeling of control will help her/him to take steps to shift out of depression and regain hope in the future.

Helplessness

To assist feelings of helplessness the individual needs to feel as though she/he has sufficient resources and support networks available to get through the issues at hand. As a friend you can personally be there to provide support. However, in times of depression it is really critical to advise a depressed friend to seek professional help from a qualified therapist or life coach.

Where therapists differs from a friend is in their perspective (enabling unemotional support) and in the techniques used to move past depression into happiness and health. Your support as a friend will of course remain very important in times of depression, so one should not substitute the other.

Worthlessness

In order to assist an individual to increase worthless feelings, it’s important to increase internal validation. Reminding the person of past and current success is a good start. What is especially required is current evidence of being valued. Encouraging the person to help others and thus to see first hand appreciation for this assistance is a great way to see evidence of self worth.

The key here is tapping into the issues causing the depression. So if a person feels unattractive, taking her out for a beauty treatment or supporting her to get back into shape will help. If a person is feeling unloved, showing him those that love and support him will help. If a person is feeling like a failure, engaging her in activities you know she will do well in will also help.

In addition to these supportive techniques above, it is very important to encourage healthy eating and increasing physical activity. Thee two behaviours have a huge impact on moods. Being a good friend could be as simple as supporting your friends to get healthy.

Always remember that there is tremendous power in friendship support. Your ability to help a person in need is one of the most valuable and rewarding aspects of being a human being.

To seek help with depression visit The Happy Life website at: http://www.happylife.net.au

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