Henry Ford once said, “If you think you can or if you think you can’t, you’re right.” The same is true with failure. Since the true definition of success is being content with yourself, then if you think you’re a failure, well…you’re right! Sounds harsh, I know. Fortunately, going from failure to success isn’t nearly as hard as you think. You just have to do one thing: change your mind. Here’s how to do it.
- Stop comparing your life to others’.
Success isn’t the same thing as perfection. One is attainable and the other is a complete figment of your imagination. Since perfection doesn’t exist, you’ll never be perfect. There will always be someone who has something you don’t, whether it be riches, beauty, or career fulfillment, etc. Everyone has different gifts, and we all take a different path, but you have to remind yourself that different isn’t better. You will never be successful (that is, happy) until you stop evaluating yourself based on someone else’s reality.
- Stop living for other people.
Many of the things we spend our whole lives trying to attain are things that other people have told us are important. We want the big house and fancy car to keep up with the neighbors. We have to have the perfect hair and flawless makeup to look like the Photoshopped images on the grocery store magazines. Before you half kill yourself trying to live up to someone else’s standards, stop and ask yourself what is really important to you, and then focus your efforts in that direction.
- Celebrate you.
Stop having a pity party and have a different kind—one that celebrates the unique and vibrant person that you are. Start by making a list of qualities that you like about yourself. If you’ve been indulging in negative self-talk for a while, then you may find this to be a challenging activity, but don’t give up. With practice, you’ll get better. Once you’ve identified your strengths, you can start building on them rather than trying to be someone you’re not.
- Don’t take life so seriously.
Yes, the bills have to be paid. Your to-do list is getting longer, and bad things are happening in the world. I get it, but not everything in life has to be serious. Allow yourself to smile and enjoy a belly laugh with a friend. After all, isn’t a life of joy the most successful one you could hope for?
If you think you’re a failure, then you’re misinterpreting wealth or beauty or some other fleeting ideal for success. Let go of this misconception and start getting to know the person within—the one who is waiting for you to acknowledge her infinite wisdom.
Do you feel successful? If not, then what’s stopping you? Do you agree that achieving success is as simple as changing your mind about what success is? Comment below and don’t forget to share this article with a friend!