In a nutshell, I think that psychotherapy is a complete waste of time and money, due to the length of time it takes to see any kind of results (please – not another conversation about how my father treated me when I was 7).
Counseling is decent for mild anxiety, anger, and any other recent mild crisis you may be going through (but don’t expect any inspiration or success stories of how others have gotten to where you want to go).
I can’t say it was all bad. I did get some ‘techniques’ from my anxiety therapist on how to cope with panic attacks, and I had someone there that would listen to me when I could afford it, and the coffee was fantastic!
I’d like to share with you 3 important reasons why anxiety therapy might not work for you, and why you might want to consider firing your therapist:
1) The Finish Line Was Rarely Discussed
I don’t know about you, but for me it seemed like things were always about the process, the process, the process. Rarely did we ever talk about the end result! My vision, how my life MUST be in 6 or 7 years from now. Let’s just say I didn’t get the inspiration I needed to get me to the finish line, and on with my life.
2) My Therapist Never Considered Alternatives
I’ll tell you something – if I’m in a tennis match and I’m getting my butt whooped all over the tennis court… it’s time to change my game-style. Unfortunately, even after a year and a half of anxiety therapy and still being cooped up in a room talking about the same old things, my anxiety therapist never gave me a second option. It’s the therapist’s job to get you into a state of ‘no return’ – to not accept your condition for a minute longer and to build a bond that will create change. Simply put if something’s not working, understand that there is more than one way to get to a destination. Admit it and break your ties.
3) He or She Is Just Too Damn Old School
If this is the case, remind your therapist that Freud is long gone, and that there have been significant developments and improvements in the approach since (spiritual approaches, meditation, etc). Also ask your anxiety therapist what the difference is between coachingand therapy, and if he says coaching should only be used in a sports arena, it’s time to pack up your journal and leave.
Basically what I’m asking you to do is think outside the box. It doesn’t have to take 10 years of therapy to get results. Personal growth and recovery from anxiety disorders can be accomplished naturally and quickly by pursuing non-traditional healing options, as well as coaches who may not have the book expertise but know what it takes to create a lasting change in your life. There’s nothing that can replace a good bond between client and coach.
Your potential is limitless, and whoever is working with you should remind you of that and have a clear vision of how to achieve your goals and dreams. If this is not the case currently, I suggest you put your money and effort elsewhere…
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