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How To Be Who You Are – Not Who You Think You Are

How to be who you are, rather than who you think you areBe careful what you think. Any image or thought you hold about some aspect of yourself stifles your growth and freedom. For example, if you think of yourself as overweight, however true that may be, you tend to stay overweight as a result. If you think of your golf handicap as a particular number, you tend to not surpass that number. In both examples, you’re inclined to sabotage any change or improvement. As soon as you see yourself losing weight, you start overeating again to maintain the image of yourself as “overweight.” If you find yourself playing better golf than your predetermined handicap, you hit more balls into sand traps in order to return to that handicap. It’s a subtle and subconscious phenomenon.

The same applies to ideals. If you think yourself a kind, fine, upstanding, church-going citizen — then become judgmental, vengeful or angry at the slightest provocation — what happened to that ideal? It’s been contradicted. You never imagined yourself a hypocrite. Then you feel guilt and remorse. The idea is not to stop the anger, but to stop holding any fixed ideal or image about yourself – negative or positive. There’s nothing wrong with anger of itself. In those moments of anger, that’s exactly who you are so the correct response is to totally accept it. When that anger is accepted, an interesting thing happens – the anger subsides. The anger is controlled. Thus acceptance has transformed anger from a negative to a positive. It’s amazing!

Likewise with any psychological pain. When feeling jealous or revengeful, anxious or despairing, weak or powerless, confused or conflicted – that’s who you are. To reject anything about yourself is to reject everything about yourself. When you reject something it doesn’t go away. It’s repressed into the subconscious part of your mind, and stays with you as an energy draining undercurrent. Anything negative that enters your awareness is to be accepted not fought or escaped from. Acceptance dis-empowers a thing. It neutralizes it.

If you think yourself strong, you’ll certainly have feelings of weakness as a result. If you think yourself a person of courage and faith, you must have feelings of fear and doubt as well. Therein lies the stressful conflict that diminishes your joy and power. If you didn’t think yourself strong, feelings of weakness wouldn’t and ouldn’t arise, etc.

All ideals have to be dropped because they include within them their negative opposites. You can’t have one without the other. They are two sides of the same coin. You don’t need to think anything positive about yourself because you are all positive and perfect all the time — otherwise you wouldn’t be here. You contradict that tremendous fact when you hold fixed ideals about  how good you are or reject any so-called negatives about yourself. Change what you can, accept what you can’t. Live on life’s terms not personal terms. All or nothing has to be accepted. You have to be all in — not choose what or not you’ll accept about life like a buffet. That’s primitive, self-centered thinking. Rise above all that good or bad, right or wrong nonsense. Retire from the debating society. You are not qualified to judge the flaws of the world or yourself. If your peace of mind, joy and contentment are to be unconditional, then accept the world and yourself as is, all the time.

About the Author

Bill writes on personal development from a spiritual perspective. His formal training was in electronics engineering – a field he abandoned after a “spiritual wakening” experience led him to an intense 30-year study of human potential development. He is the author of The Relaxation Principle, Getting Centered, The Zen of Sobriety, Break Your Love Affair with Food, and many related articles. Bill is a single, former Bostonian, living and writing in Naples, Florida.

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Simple Ways to Overcome Your Anxiety Attacks

StressAnxiety is a state of mind or a mental condition inherent in all humans, but exaggerated in some as anxiety disorder. This disorder is generally experienced by individuals under prolonged stress or deep agony, to later graduate into anxiety attacks. However, it is not too difficult to overcome anxiety if you follow a healthy lifestyle and subjugate the factors responsible for triggering anxiety.

One of the first things you require, to overcome your anxiety is in creating a mental state that is immune to stress and anxiety. While healthy body can be acquired through regular exercise, jogging and healthy diet, you can rely on meditation, music and professional relaxing techniques for a healthy mind.

Overcoming Anxiety Attacks

Anxiety and panic attacks is one of the grim effects of intense stress and anxiety disorder, which not only disrupts normal and healthy environment, but can also have harmful consequences. Thereby, it is extremely important to curb the cause that triggers anxiety in the very initial stage with proven methods like cognitive-behavioral therapy, exposure therapy and medication as well.

Medication or prescription therapy to overcome anxiety is recommended as the ultimate choice in case other natural procedures to overcome anxiety do not succeed. However, medications have its own side-effects and cannot be considered a long-term option.

One of the most important aspects that need to be mastered, to overcome anxiety attacks are to keep your mind under control. Moreover, since the circumstances that trigger anxiety attacks may vary from person to another; you may seek the assistance of therapist to undermine the root cause of your anxiety.

Simple Practical Ways to Overcome Anxiety Attacks

Trace the anxiety cause: Diagnosing the follow up of events leading to anxiety and panic attacks is considered beneficial to help overcome anxiety. Therefore, it is suggested that you maintain a record of the incidents that is happening enroute to anxiety attacks for future therapy. You never know, what subconsciously triggers your anxiety attacks.

Breathing: An increased rate of breathing experienced during an anxiety attack, also considered its first symptoms can evolve into a vicious cycle if not treated on time. You can practice the right breathing technique practiced to overcome anxiety attacks – slow inhalation for a count of four, hold your breath for a count of seven and slow exhalation through your mouth.

Air and Water therapy: The calming effect of fresh air, beautiful surroundings and tranquil water is considered to have an immediate impact in overcoming anxiety attacks. Brace yourself to fresh air or a cool shower or a drink, as soon as you are near to experiencing anxiety attacks.

Focus on Anxiety: Anxiety is an absolute intricate state of mind, therefore it is essential to exercise full control of your mind power, focus on anxiety and free yourself from being controlled or overpowered by it. You can even reiterate to yourself and even say out verbally of not allowing giving in to stress and anxiety.

Muscle relaxation: Anxiety also takes a toll on your body. Practice muscle relaxation (clench and release) starting from your feet and gradually moving up involving every part of your body to the head, until you overcome your anxiety.

Music for Relaxation: Music therapy is a popular, proven and perhaps the oldest procedure for the treatment of stress, panic and anxiety attacks. Music is said to sooth your senses and diverts your focus from the cause of anxiety. It is an excellent stress buster.

* Stress and anxiety may be dubbed as inseparable part of our lives; but it is up to you to overcome your anxiety and prevent it from causing irreparable damage to your personal and professional lives.

Charlotte Wilson is a relationship researcher dedicated to bringing a fresh new approach to dealing with Anxiety and Panic Attack issues.  If you are deadly serious and what to learn how to overcome your anxiety attacks then visit the authors website for effective self help anxiety treatments.

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