Deal With Stress

Time Should Be Spent On Quality, Not Quantity

five-minutes-to-relaxationI love the summer; it is a fabulous time to be stress free.  However, for me it wasn’t always that way.  I used to jam-pack my schedule and race around from one event to the next.  I used to think summer was a time to do more things, get more done, and also have more fun.  So, what about you?  Is your summer stress FREE or stress FULL?

The trouble is that by dashing from event to event, we can’t even begin to enjoy any of the fun things we are supposed to be doing!  Because I used to over-pack my schedule, I would be late (causing tons of additional stress, of course) to cookouts, pool parties, the beach and whatever else I had planned.  I never had any downtime to enjoy myself because there was always something else that needed to be done or somewhere to be.  And let’s not even talk about squeezing in work!

Obviously I’m a social person (I bet you are, too).  I enjoy being with people, so ‘yes’ is usually what I say when invited somewhere or when someone says “It would be fun to…”

Now though, I realize that saying ‘yes’ all the time only stresses me out.  It was a hard lesson for me to learn but a worthy one; less is more.  Believe it or not, I do say ‘no’ to invitations now.  (Gasp!)

Are you thinking, “But I don’t like to say no!”   I didn’t at first either but it’s well worth it!  Since I’m out to clear my stress (as we all should be), when I receive an invitation now, I take a look at my calendar and see the big picture.  What do I already have on there and what work-load do I have.  I used to hate using a calendar because I felt hemmed in by it, but now I am liberated by it!

See, what I discovered was that quality, not quantity, was more important to me.  So I schedule accordingly.  Maybe I can’t be at a cookout with friends one day but I can schedule another time with them and really be with them.  It’s all good.

Try to be in the moment, whatever moment you are in.  Really be there – not two minutes or two days into the future, nor two minutes or two days in the past – truly be in the present moment.

Go ahead and try it.  Take something off your schedule and create space to fully enjoy something else.  It’s a beautiful place to be and it’s also one of pleasure and peace.

Author Bio: Kim Ravida is Founder and CEO of Kim Ravida Coaching.  Kim works with women and women business owners to structure their lives and businesses in a way that fits them so that they reach their goals, make more money and live their lives with less stress and more success.  She places an emphasis on fun, freedom and practicing good self-care.

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