What comes to mind for you when you think about your own personal freedom? The personal freedom I’m referring to is your internal personal freedom—the personal freedom that allows you to be exactly what and who you are and want to be–the personal freedom that easily allows you to be all those things and live your life without worrying about what other people think.
It’s that freedom that allows you to live your life exactly how you want to live it and be totally comfortable with yourself because it’s who you are. It’s what you want and what you love. It’s the personal freedom that brings you fulfillment and happiness in all areas of your life.
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
The idea of acquiring or creating this personal freedom for yourself is one you likely don’t think about daily because you may be caught up in the rat race of daily life. But, it has likely come up for you over the course of your life—perhaps repeatedly.
We all have a pretty good idea of what we like or love in terms of friends, work, relationships, interests, and the things that “make us tick” at a personal level. We also usually have strong ideas of what we don’t want or like in any of those areas.
Why is it then that most of us stay in situations or circumstances we really don’t like or want rather than choose to live the life that suits us better and makes us happier—the life that really reflects who we are.
The single most likely reason for any of us is that we worry about what other people will think if we march to the beat of a different drummer or go down our own path. We’re afraid people won’t approve of our choices or that we won’t fit in.
And why is it we care so much about what other people will think or say about us? Well, it’s because it’s a behavior we’ve all learned over the course of our lifetimes, whether it be from our parents, friends, relatives, co-workers, or society itself. I believe it’s a combination of all of them.
The important thing to know though is that these beliefs can be changed. You don’t need the approval of others to be who you are and live a life that makes you happy and that you find fulfilling.
“Conformity is that jailer of freedom and the enemy of growth.” ~ J.F.K.
And, the day you start to live your life as who you really are and how you want to live it will officially arrive when you let go of all those learned beliefs and behaviors so you no longer worry about or even concern yourself with what other people think.
Here are some examples of the behaviors or traits that are common to people who are always worried about what others think. See if you see yourself in any of them:
1) You don’t voice your personal ideas about what you believe or really want because you fear you won’t fit in or be accepted;
2) You worry about what others will think if you leave your job or career for something you love that they don’t understand;
3) You’re afraid of what people will think about how you look so you dress in clothes you really don’t like or find uncomfortable just to please them rather than wear what you like and are comfortable and happy in;
4) You get nervous when people expect you to contribute to their conversations because they talk about things that no longer matter to you yet you still want to be included;
5) You let what family members, friends, or co-workers believe or say stop you from creating the life you want; and/or
6) You stay in a marriage or other romantic relationship even though you aren’t happy because of what other people might think of you for leaving it.
These are just a few of the many ways most of us waste our precious lives worrying about what others think rather than living our lives being who we are and doing what brings us the most happiness and fulfillment.
Did you see yourself in any of the behaviors listed above?
I ask because I know what it’s like. I used to worry about what others thought along with other things that stood in the way of living my best life. (If you’ve not heard my story and would like to know more, I invite you to have a look at www.peggynelson.net/about.)
The great thing is, I’ve let go of it. You see, a belief is nothing more than a thought that’s repeated over and over again until your subconscious mind holds it to be true.
But, you have the ability to change it! How? You can replace the thoughts, beliefs, or behaviors you don’t want with new, positive, and empowering thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors you do want and are aligned with.
It may take some time, but I always say that anything of value takes time to evolve into whatever it is you want to create for yourself.
Every time an old thought, belief, or behavior pops up for you, be aware of it and replace it with one that is truly who you are. Remember, repetition is the key to your subconscious mind adopting the new and improved thought, belief, or behavior.
This is the absolute secret to personal freedom, but it’s up to you to take action to create it for yourself. I say out with the old—in with the new, so for starters, stop worrying about what other people think.
“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” ~ Dr. Seuss
Author Bio: Peggy Nelson is a certified Life and Personal Development Coach, a certified Law of Attraction Coach, and the founder of PeggyNelson.net. She is also a published author and blogger. Her mission as a professional coach is to help people get unstuck and get past whatever stands in the way of creating and living their best life. She helps them shift their thinking, let go of stress and drama, change their perspective, view their life from a much larger lens, and ultimately create fulfilling, happy, and successful lives they love. To learn more about Peggy and coaching with her or to download her free eBook, follow her blog, or schedule a free get acquainted session with her, please visit her new website at www.PeggyNelson.net