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angerIs there anything you’d like to do differently in your life? Is there anything you’d like to stop doing or start doing? Is there something you’ve wanted to do for a while, but just can’t seem to accomplish?

Did you know your mindset might be the problem?

In this article, we’ll explore two mindset factors that determine how easy or challenging it is for you to initiate and sustain positive change. You’ll also learn some tips to work with your current mindset to make change easier.

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Let’s begin with a definition of what a mindset is. According to Professor Derek D. Rucker, PhD:

“Mindsets can be thought of as psychological orientations that shape how we view the world around us.” (p.85, IDEA Fitness Journal, July-August 2016)

So, in the context of “change,” a mindset is the way that we look at change. It’s our perspective on what change means to us. It turns out there are two important mindset factors:

1. Does your mindset favor Promotion or Prevention?

2. Is your mindset Fixed or Growth-oriented?

Let’s explore how these influence your ability to make changes. Keep in mind that most of us fall somewhere between the two ends of these continuums. Yet, it’s important to know what side you lean toward, so you can use this knowledge to help you move forward.

First, a Promotion mindset is geared toward “ideals and gains,” while a Prevention mindset is focused on avoiding a specific outcome. As you assess why you are struggling with making a change, ask yourself:

“Am I more motivated by what I want to gain or by what I want to avoid?”

For example, do you want to meditate to gain a sense of peace and the positive benefits associated with that or to avoid the feeling of being stressed and the negative consequences of that? Studies show that most people are more risk-adverse than they are gain-seeking.

There’s no right or wrong answer here. Knowing your personal mindset bias will simply help you know the best way to motivate yourself. Some people work better by focusing on pursuing “the carrot,” others by avoiding “the stick.”

If you are Promotion-oriented, you’ll want to focus on all the good things you’ll gain by adopting a certain behavior. You also may want to give yourself rewards for making positive steps forward.

If you are more Prevention-oriented you’ll want to gather evidence for how your new behavior will help you avoid bad consequences. And, you might work best by taking away privileges if you don’t follow through on your good intentions.

Also, it’s important to know that Promotion-oriented folks are often good at initiating change, but not as good at maintaining their new behaviors. While, on the other hand, Prevention-oriented folks are better at sticking with something once they’ve got it going, because they don’t want to lose what they’ve got.

Which way do you lean?

Once you have a feel for your tendency on the Promotion-Prevention scale, you can assess your tendency on the Fixed/Growth scale. “People with a Growth mindset see the world as changeable, while people with a Fixed mindset see it as unchangeable.” (p.87, “What is Mindset Training,” IDEA Fitness Journal, July-August 2016).

You can ask yourself: Do I believe that things are more fixed or more subject to change?

For example, do you routinely comment on how things never seem to change? Do you like things to stay the same?

Or do you routinely notice that everything is always changing? Do you like the variety of change?

Again, there are no right or wrong answers. These are just perceptual biases that color how you relate to change. Once you know your tendency, you can work with it to your advantage.

If you are someone who notices how things always stay the same or you like it when they do, you will likely doubt that you can make a change or fear it. So, it will be important for you to prove to yourself that change is both possible and beneficial.

A good strategy for you will be to take small incremental steps and notice things changing for the better little by little. This will build your belief in the fact that change is possible and that it’s a good thing.

In our meditation example, it would probably be best for you to start with short meditation sessions and notice the small changes in how you feel after these sessions. Then, you can gradually increase your commitment as you start to see positive results.

If you are more Growth-oriented, it will be easier for you to initiate changes. Yet, it may be harder for you to stick with things, because you are likely to always be onto the next new thing. So, to stick with something, you’ll want to notice how sticking with your new behavior enables you to go deeper and keep growing.

Again, with our meditation example, as a Growth-oriented person you would benefit from doing longer sessions in which you go really deep and experience a profound shift in perception to motivate you to stick with it.

Are you getting a feel for how you can work best with your mindset? Based on your tendencies toward Promotion/Prevention and Fixed/Growth mindsets, what are your best strategies toward making the changes you desire?

Remember that different strategies work best for different people—and what’s most important is to discover what works well for you.

Enjoy your practice!

-Kevin Schoeninger
The Mind-Body Training Company

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