It can be easy to be caught in a whirlwind with obligations that create a pressing urge to be perfect-especially when it feels that family and friends are watching. By remembering that perfection is only an illusion we are able to return to our roots and find peace in our inner calm. Think about it, when we visualize our “perfect” holiday, everything is neat, tidy and put together. With the perfect meal prepared, the perfect wrapping on each perfect gift and our clothes look perfect on our perfect bodies and we feel perfectly happy… right? Wrong. Rushing and hustling is hardly the intention we set for this time of year.
It is important to take a pause and think, “how do I want to be seen this holiday season,” “how do I want to be present?” By visualizing how we want to feel and operating from that intention we better focus our attention and thus, our energy.
Set aside time each day to sit in silence. You don’t need to sit for long, simply 5-10 minutes.
Visualize your day, what you have already done, and what is yet to come. Get curious. How do you feel? Anxious? Calm? Worried? Whatever arises let it come. Honor it. Know that these are your feelings, they have risen within you, and they too shall pass. Observe your mind. Then shift. Visualize the sky-clear, open, expanded. That bright Colorado crystalline blue of the morning just after the sun has risen. Let your mind be that sky, allow your thoughts to be any clouds. They are high up there, far away from you, they are nonthreatening, you are separate from them. Observe the clouds (your thoughts) as you would clouds. If you find your mind wondering that is OK. Get curious. Control your attention, but not what you see or feel. Push away nothing. Cling to nothing. Be alert, like a guard at the palace gate, the gates of your mind. Ask, “why can I not be alone with myself?” “what am I urged to do and why can I not take these 5 minutes to sit still in my consciousness.” Notice what comes through your senses-your eyes, ears, nose, skin and tongue. The important thing is to remain curious.
Know that this day too shall pass and it is important to focus your attention on our intention to allow yourself savor the moments that fill you with joy.
The National Science Foundation found that the typical human mind experiences 12,000-50,000 thoughts on a given day. If you are an overachiever type that number could easily be closer to 60,000 thoughts. Many of these thoughts are negative, they are racing and they are fleeting. Yet, they still count as thoughts. By quieting the mind, through meditation and sitting in silence, we can better focus our thoughts to be self-supporting rather than self-defeating.
You are capable of being the master of your mind and the master of your experience.
By: Leanna N DeFere
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Article Source: Staying Sane on the Inside: A Mindfulness Exercise