It’s easy to think that there’s no point to Valentine’s Day. In the weeks leading up to it, our sense are constantly assaulted with incentives to buy, buy, buy – adding credence to the belief that Valentine’s Day is just a commercial gimmick that leaves you more stressed and more broke than you were before it. However, the good news is that Valentine’s Day can be an incredibly romantic and special day – the way it’s MEANT to be – without sending your stress levels sky-rocketing or leaving a big hole burnt in your wallet.
Follow the steps we’ve outlined below about how to have a stress-free Valentine’s Day, while still spoiling your loved one in the way that they deserve!
Agree with your loved one on how you want to celebrate
While we agree that surprising your loved one can be pretty romantic, it’s a lot easier to chat with your partner beforehand and decide how you want to celebrate Valentine’s Day. Feel free to suggest something you’d like to do and be open minded when listening to what your partner would like to do too. Find something you both feel comfortable and happy to do on the day, whether it be a late breakfast together at a lovely restaurant or an outing in the evening to have a drink as you watch the sunset. Romance is about who you’re with as opposed to what you’re doing so don’t lose sight of the fact that the most important thing about Valentine’s Day is who you’re sharing it with.
Spend within your budget
We’d all like to be able to buy our significant other their every desire, but this is hardly feasible unless you’re one of the billionaires of the World. However, even if you are one of them, you’ll probably find that what they desire has little to do with price or sparkle. Instead, it’s more about meaning on Valentine’s Day. Whatever you do decide to buy your baby this year remember that gestures of love don’t have a price tag and can speak a lot louder than anything else. A hand-drawn card filled with words of love or an old-school PowerPoint presentation reminding your lover why you love them will mean a lot more than anything you can buy from inside a store. Trust us.
Make it mean more
If you’re in a relationship or if you’re single, it’s easy to think that there’s nothing more to Valentine’s Day than spending money (if you have someone to share it with), or hating happy couples (if you don’t). However, by simply changing the meaning of the day, you can make it mean a lot more than that while simultaneously turning it into a day you can enjoy with any worries or stress. Change your mind set and think of Valentine’s Day as a day for love, in all its forms. Celebrate the love you have for all the special people in your life. This doesn’t mean you have to buy 100 gifts but rather just spend time with good friends and family. Everyone really can enjoy the day, not just those who’re madly in love.
Don’t let it define your relationship
No matter how you and your significant other decide to spend Valentine’s Day, it’s important that you do see it as just another day and avoid measuring the ‘success’ of your relationship by how romantic and/or expensive it was. With so many different and inexpensive ways to celebrate, you will both do well to remember that it’s just another day in the year. The best thing is that you have another 364 days to celebrate your love, as well, by simply being good to one another and loving honestly. Don’t let one day in the year say too much about the strength of your relationship, because high expectations will lead to disappointment that can ruin an otherwise healthy and happy relationship.
Reschedule if need be
There’s no hard and fast rule that the romance of February needs to be had on the 14th. Rather, be honest about it and suggest moving your special candlelit dinner or walk on the beach to another more convenient time. By doing this you not only give your partner the best version of yourself – the one that isn’t distract by deadlines or in a foul mood due to stress – and you also ensure that you can actually book a table or a weekend away without having to endure the Valentine’s Day rush madness.
Stay in the moment
Whenever you decide to celebrate and whatever you decide to do, stay present. So many people get caught up in their minds and the notions of what they think they ought to be doing that they actually forget to enjoy what they’re doing. Whatever you and your partner agree to do, it’s important that you remember to just have fun! Be yourself, go with the flow, and enjoy it. Valentine’s Day only comes once a year, and rather than dreading it and building up anxiety over how to make it ‘perfect’, embrace it for what it is – a chance to really connect with the one you love.
Robyn Porteous is the creative content manager for Birando, a family-run business established out of genuine enthusiasm for innovative party products and great special events. More of her writing can be found on her Google+ profile.