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Happy and Stress Free Marriage: Learn how to Preserve it

happy and stress free marriageMarriage isn’t always easy. That’s a fact. Relationships take work and cause high amounts of stress. We all know that. What we may not know is how to do the work or how to clear the tension and stress. There are things you can do to improve your union in an attempt to preserve it, as well as to have a happy and stress free marriage. Start with these suggestions.


Find the Compromise

A lot of time spouses hold in the things that cause them the most stress and as a result the marriage suffers. Make a list of the issues that are causing the most strife in your marriage. Ask your spouse to do the same. It’s a good idea to rank the list in terms of importance. Then address the issues that are most relevant to both of you and discuss possible compromises you can make. You may be surprised at the solutions you come up with. A lot of time spouses hold in the things that cause them the most stress and as a result the marriage suffers.


Be Self-Centered

That’s right. Focus on yourself. See what you can do to make things better and to promote change in your relationship. We can’t make other people change. Figure out what tangible steps you can take toward improving interactions with your partner. Along these same lines, learn to use “I statements.” These are statements in which you focus on sharing with your partner how “you” are feeling about a situation, rather than assigning blame to them. For example, you could say, “I feel hurt when you don’t call to tell me you’ll be late,” instead of lashing out with, “You never call, and you’re so inconsiderate!” By focusing on self it is guaranteed that your spouse will feel more cherished and more at ease.


Get Together

Many marriages end simply because the couple has drifted so far apart that they no longer spend quality time together. Make a concerted effort to do things together like a date night or a hobby you both enjoy. Even sitting down to talk or watch TV after the kids go to bed can encourage closeness, leading to an overall improved relationship. Activities are the best way to bond and take some of the pressure off of your shoulders whether it was from marital conflict or the normal burdens of the day.


Be Aware of Big Problems

There are certain things that are unacceptable in a relationship. Some of these are substance abuse or addiction, cheating, physical or emotional abuse and extreme anger. If you or your partner are engaging in any of these behaviors, it is imperative that you seek help. Professional counseling or rehabilitation services can make a world of difference and change lives. However, if the person with the problem is unwilling to get the help he or she needs, it may be time to begin researching divorce attorneys. No matter your decision, it is always wisest to be self-assured as this will provide you the greatest peace in this stressful time.

It’s usually the desire of couples to remain together, and that can definitely be accomplished. Commitment, compromise and communication are needed in order to preserve a happy and healthy marriage. Taking time to really focus on change, peaceful environments within the home, and selfless love can lead to new pathways in a relationship.

Author Bio: Erika Remmington is a freelance writer from Santa Cruz, California, and a recent graduate from the University of California, Berkeley in linguistics. She is an avid rock climber who loves nature, trail running, and to spend time with her husband and daughter. Informational credit to J. Scott Gunn, P.A. 

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