What do you do when you are feeling stressed-out and you aren’t sure what to do? For example, when you have bills that you don’t know if you can pay, a relationship in which you feel repeatedly disrespected and undervalued, a health crisis in which doctors and other experts are giving you conflicting advice, or a work crisis that you don’t know how to solve?
Do you put your head down, plow ahead, and push through no matter how much stress builds up? Do you throw your hands up in the air and give up? Do feel exhausted and depleted by having yet another thing piled on top of all the other things you don’t know how you’ll handle? In this article, I’ll describe a simple technique that can help you find solutions to any stressful situation or problem you face.
Let’s begin with a simple concept. What you see as real and possible for you in any situation is determined by your current perspective in that situation—the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that you are currently engaged in. Now, some of these you are aware of, but most of your perspective is below your conscious awareness.
Think of yourself as having three parts: conscious, subconscious, and super-conscious. The conscious part of you is what you are aware of at any given moment. Your subconscious holds memories of your past experiences as well as all the programming necessary to run your life without you having to be conscious of these things. This includes DNA instructions for all the physiological processes in your body as well as habitual routines that you use to get through life such as: how to breathe, chew your food, brush your teeth, drive to work, and accomplish your repetitive daily tasks. Your subconscious takes care of all this for you, so you don’t have to spend energy thinking about it.
Now, what about your super-conscious—what is this and what does it do?
Think of your super-conscious as that part of you that is connected to everything else and to your Source. Some call it your Higher Self or just Inner Guidance. It’s that part of you that takes in the whole field around you and calculates what is best for you at any given moment. Your Higher Self knows things like “right action” and “perfect timing” because it senses everything at once-much more than you can consciously be aware of and process.
It’s this part of you that you can tap into when you feel stuck or stressed-out. You can do this through what’s called “Conscious Priming.”
Conscious Priming is when you ask a question or assign a task to your super-conscious and then let it go to work for you, while you go about the rest of your day. You then find that a solution pops into your mind, or you see something that sparks an insight, or you meet someone who has your answer.
I’ve found three very effective ways to use Conscious Priming:
1. At the end of my morning meditation practice, when I am nice and relaxed, I pose a question to my super-conscious, then I pay attention to anything that comes into my awareness throughout the day.
2. Before exercising, I work on a project or ask a question, then notice what comes into my mind as I exercise. Exercising stimulates new neural connections. I often get great writing ideas or problem solutions while I exercise.
3. Right before bed, I consider the situation I feel stuck in or stressed about. Then, I let it go and give it over to my super-conscious mind. I will sometimes dream of a solution or have one with me when I wake up in the morning.
I encourage you to experiment with Conscious Priming and see what works best for you. I’d love to hear some of the ways you tap into your super-conscious guidance in the Comments below.