We all experience these stress emotions, especially when going through that first major life change or transition. A transition is defined as “a passage from one state, stage, subject, or place to another;” and as “a movement, development, or evolution from one form, stage, or style to another.”
When making your first major life change or transition, I think the first definition applies, and anytime we make a “passage” to the next level or place, it surely can be a stretch for us and make us feel a bit unsettled or uncertain or just plain freaked out.
Let’s see if we can lighten the load a little for you on making such a big fat life change or transition of any kind.
Here are a couple of my favorite quotes that are right on topic. They relate to both sides of making these big life changes or transitions.
“Between letting go of the old and successfully launching the new, there is a time of confusion and emptiness. People often feel lost during this time, and too often they interpret that lostness as yet another sign that something is wrong. It is simply a sign that they have entered the fertile chaos of the neutral zone.” ~ William Bridges
“The fertile chaos of the neutral zone” surely describes what most of us go through while making big life changes or transitions doesn’t it? Although it does seem chaotic and downright frightening at times and yes it causes us to get our undies in a major bunch, it’s simply the neutral zone we find ourselves in before the change or transition is complete. It’s a time that leaves us questioning when it will end and yet oddly enough gives us drive to forge ahead.
And, because it’s just plain human nature to want to advance, expand, learn, grow, and change, it’s very likely we’re going to experience another big fat life change or transition in the not too distant future. But, once you have that first big one under your belt, I think the second definition I mentioned above perfectly describes the next change or transition: “a movement, development, or evolution from one form, stage, or style to another.” Ahhh, so much more elegant isn’t it? And so much easier to understand than your first big life change or transition because you know what to expect and you’re more ready for it.
So, here’s a closing thought from Benjamin Franklin to soothe your soul while in a change or transition of any kind:
“Do not anticipate trouble or worry about what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight.” ~ Benjamin Franklin
Author Bio: Peggy Nelson is a professional life coach, owner and founder of Life Your Way Coaching, a published author, and a professional blogger. Her mission is to help people access that part of themselves that allows them to shift their thinking, release fear at every level, experience personal growth and empowerment, and ultimately create fulfilling, happy, and successful personal and professional lives they love. To learn more about the benefits of coaching with Peggy, follow her blog, or to schedule a free consultation with her, please visit her website at www.lifeyourwaycoaching.com.