We all have a tendency to get our undies in a bunch when something we don’t want to happen happens or something we do want to happen doesn’t, right? It usually doesn’t matter if it’s of great importance or not. Our response is essentially the same.
We tend to go right into stress mode, complain or blame, send our muscles into a complete state of tension, and feel our blood pressure instantly escalate, and for what?
This response doesn’t do anything to change the outcome of whatever it is we do or don’t want, nor does it bring a solution or resolution. All it does is make us uncomfortable and sometimes so stressed we get physically ill.
“Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the potential consequences of any misfortune.” ~ William James
So today I’m going to provide you with some insight that if put into practice can change your response and therefore your behavior to greatly reduce stress when any unwanted circumstances arise. And that insight is this:
Be aware that how you respond to any circumstance will dictate your results—either positively or negatively.
Let me explain. The biggest problem most of us have is this. We’re stuck in our intellectual, logical, or ego mind 99.9% of the time.
We get caught up in the daily drama of our lives and never realize we’re trapped in that linear mind—the one-way street that doesn’t present solutions and instead only recognizes and perpetuates problems if anything doesn’t go our way.
Being stuck in this mind doesn’t allow room to tap into your inner wisdom or higher and more mature self where you’re able to:
1) choose to relax, stay calm, and accept what’s happening but not succumb to it because you know there are options you can consider that will bring a resolution or solution;
2) respond with a higher and more mature and intuitive perspective that allows you to think clearly so you’re able to recognize those options, resolutions, and solutions; and
3) when you recognize that responding in a positive and calm mindset allows you to focus on those options, resolutions, and solutions, you don’t reach the stress mode because you’re tuned into and focused on creating a positive outcome.
Adopting this mindset and behavior can take some work but like anything else, with repetition, staying aware that this is a choice and putting it into practice at every opportunity will with time make it a habit—a regular response, mindset, and behavior for you.
Any time something comes up that would normally stress you, you will be instantly aware of your ability to relax, take a breath, be calm, and respond more maturely and therefore much more positively.
This is a method you can put into practice right now. Think about a time that you let yourself get into a total stress mode because of a circumstance that came up in your life. Then consider what you might have done instead had you had this knowledge and awareness.
This is a good way to start (re)conditioning your subconscious mind to immediately respond with a calm, relaxed, and mature mindset the next time such a circumstance arises for you.
So by all means, treat yourself to this wonderful new way of thinking. It will change your life for the better and open you up to a whole new and powerful mindset and a whole new and relaxed state of being.
“Acceptance looks like a passive state, but in reality it brings something entirely new into this world. That peace, a subtle energy vibration, is consciousness.” ~ Eckhart Tolle
Author Bio: Peggy Nelson is a certified professional Life and Personal Development Coach, the founder of www.PeggyNelson.net (formerly Life Your Way Coaching), a published author, and an avid blogger. Her mission as a professional coach is to help people access that part of themselves that allows them to get out of their own way and shift their thinking, release fear at every level, experience personal growth and empowerment, and ultimately create fulfilling, happy, and successful personal and professional lives they love. To learn more about Peggy and what she offers or to follow her blog or schedule a free get acquainted session with her, please visit her website at www.PeggyNelson.net.