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3 Ways to Maintain Positive Focus (Even When Your Life is a Mess!)

Natchez Trail Through ForestDo you ever feel like everything is your life is negative? We all have times in our lives when everything seems to be going wrong, and during those times, it can be very easy to lose perspective. The temptation to curl up in a corner or pull the sheets over our heads is something that everyone has experienced at some time or another—whether we’d like to admit it or not. Instead of succumbing to the temptation, though, there are some coping strategies you can use to get through this hectic or emotional time in your life without losing your positive outlook.

                     1.       Focus on the small things.

Yes, we’ve been told not to sweat the small stuff, and that’s excellent advice. However, it’s not wise to ignore every minute detail. Sometimes when all the big things in your life seem to be falling apart (think finances, relationships, etc.), it can be very grounding to focus in on the things that are going right, however small they may seem. Are you thankful for the smell of freshly brewed coffee in the morning or a fall day that’s not too hot and not too cold? Though they may appear insignificant compared to the looming problems in your life, don’t make the mistake of ignoring them. You’d be surprised at how a moment of gratitude (over anything at all!) can transform your entire day.

                     2.       Reach out to others.

Many of us pride ourselves on holding things together even when things get tough. Determination and perseverance are great attributes, but when you find yourself struggling to keep a smile on your face, it may be time to reach out to those people in your life who you can count on to help. Not only will this ease the burden caused by excessive stress, but it will also serve as a reminder that you have a circle of support. We weren’t meant to do this life alone, so don’t try to. Reach out to those around you and allow yourself to feel gratitude for them. If you feel a tug of guilt, remind yourself that they too are benefiting from lending a helping hand.

                     3.       Find moments of quiet.

When problems arise in our lives, we often find ourselves scurrying around (either mentally or physically) trying to fix things. Though this is a natural human response, it can sometimes do more harm than good. What we really need in these tough times is the opportunity to experience quiet—to be alone with our true selves, whether it be through prayer or meditation or both. Practicing quiet on a regular basis can put you back in touch with your authentic self—you know, the one who is steadfast and untouched by these surface-level problems that have you feeling like you’re losing it!

When our lives get messy, it’s easy to get caught up in the drama. Don’t! Remember, everything in this life is temporary, so this too shall pass! Making an intentional effort to stay positive through tough times is a great spiritual practice and will pay off by granting you more strength and peace in the long run. As hard as it may be in the moment, make an effort to be thankful for these experiences that will leave you better off in the long run.

How do you maintain a positive focus in the midst of life’s ups and downs? Share your tips with us. Also, if you benefited at all from this article, be sure to share it with your friends!



One reply on “3 Ways to Maintain Positive Focus (Even When Your Life is a Mess!)”

I think it is really important to focus on the small moments in life, taking pleasure in even mundane things like a freshly washed car or receiving an e-mail from an old friend. Too many of us are waiting for huge events like vacations or promotions to make us happy, but those things may never come. Better to find joy in the beauty around us and the laughter of family and friends. Thanks for reminding me of this!

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