I know you’re inundated with advice about how to beat depression. Articles abound about the need to exercise more, eat better, and practice various meditation methods in order to ward off the blues. While all of this is good advice, there are some things you need to stop doing as well if you want to beat depression once and for all.
Bad habits are hard to break. If you’ve ever battled an addiction to cigarettes or alcohol, then you know this better than anyone. Even if you’ve been fortunate enough to avoid those big obstacles, though, you no doubt have a habit you’d like to get rid of it. Maybe you’re a nail biter or a midnight snacker? The point is that negative thought patterns are just like bad habits. They soon become such a routine part of our lives that we let them take control without giving much thought to the matter at all. Pretty soon, though, self-defeating thoughts take their toll, and before you know it, you can’t even get out of bed. I know. I’ve been there.
There’s good news, though. Habits can be broken; it just takes a little work. If you’re willing to put in the effort, you’ll reap the benefits of more peace and joy than you’ve experienced in a long time. Now, that’s a powerful motivator. Ready to get started? Here are the things you need to stop doing today in order to beat depression:
• Stop Trying to Please Everyone
You can’t please everyone all of the time, and trying to do so is just setting yourself up for failure. You exhaust all of your resources, neglect yourself, and at the end of the day, there’s still someone who’s unhappy for whatever reason. Start putting yourself first, and then make a list of the priority people in your life. Focus on meeting your needs and being available for the people who matter (and who appreciate you) the most.
• Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
You are a unique creature with your own gifts to offer the world. Whatever someone else has that you think you don’t is really none of your business. That’s part of their life’s purpose, not yours. Focus on what you do have and use these gifts to the best of your ability. Looking at someone else with jealousy is no more than a distraction, and if you let it, this bad habit will suck all of the joy right out of your life.
• Stop Beating Yourself Up
Most people in today’s society are ridden with guilt. This guilt may come from something they’ve done in the past or failing to live up to their own (or others’) unrealistic expectations. Guilt, however, is another one of those joy-sapping emotions that will leave you feeling sad and hopeless. Instead of beating yourself up over what you perceive as the mistakes in your life, celebrate your succeeds daily—even the small ones.
While putting a stop to negative emotions is a fundamental part of the recipe to beat depression, don’t discount the value of meditation methods. Although they are not all alike, many meditation methods can put you in the right frame of mind for letting go of negative thought patterns and replacing them with positive ones.
All the Best,