Having ‘clinical’ depression can affect all aspects of a person’s life. Strangely enough, during my days of dealing with depression, waking up in the morning in itself was tiring – even after a good night’s sleep. Our self esteem and self confidence take a beating, and that dark gloomy cloud that hangs over the heads of people that are going through depression cannot be wished away or just float out of their lives somehow.
First let’s look at some reasons why people become clinically depressed, and then look at what has worked for me, and others I work with, to get back to feeling abundant again.
Reasons Why People Become Clinically Depressed
Becoming Isolated – It’s just natural for human beings to want to be around other people. If the option of meeting that significant other and starting a family is there, we feel fulfilled. If that’s not an option, we at least want to feel the closeness of friends, co-workers or certain social groups. The feeling of being isolated appears when we feel that we just don’t belong, and this is a major reason people become depressed.
Medications – Let’s remember that antidepressant medication and clinical depression in general is still very poorly understood. If you are on an antidepressant, consider yourself one of the lucky ones if you don’t experience side effects. Written on the back of my old prescription: “Fluoxetine may cause some people to be agitated, irritable or display other abnormal behaviors. It may also cause some people to have suicidal thoughts and tendencies or to become more depressed.”
Chronic Stress – If you are dealing with chronic stress and anxiety, it may be disrupting normal patterns of behavior, which can then lead you down the road of depression.
Candida Overgrowth – Toxins that become released into the bloodstream due to the Candida fungus can cause a multitude of symptoms, which can lead to health anxiety and depression. As I’ve experienced in my own struggles in the past (as well as seeing what has worked for others), curing your intestinal Candida can also cure your depression.
Childhood Abuse Or Hurt – A child who has been surrounded by abuse is much more likely to experience clinical depression at a later age then one who has not. In fact, the numbers show that 59% of physically abused children will become depressed later on in life. PTSD, learning difficulties and generalized anxiety are also mental difficulties an abuse victim may experience later in life.
Substance Abuse – It’s estimated that 80% of people who have a chemical dependency or other addiction also experience a co-occurring mental health problem, such as generalized anxiety disorder or depression. Making the most life, and admitting that help is needed is the first step to success. No one can truly create lasting change in your life but you.
Loss of a Loved One – Grief is a normal reaction to the news of losing a loved one, but it can sometimes lead to a depressive disorder. Feelings of hopelessness and helplessness are all part of the grieving process, but when they continue for too long, depression may be involved.
Change – Sometimes when we lose that familiar feeling in our lives, whether due to a new job, new marriage or divorce, moving somewhere new, retirement etc., life can quickly become dissatisfying or dull. A seemingly positive change that has been planned for some time can bring unexpected changes that can bring about depressive episodes.
Nothing To Live For And Feeling Lost – There’s nothing worse than having a stale life, and having something that gives you that jolt when you wake up in the morning is key for each one of us. This can come in the form of a new hobby, becoming educated about something you’re interested in, taking part in a new social group, or maybe even teaching people something that you may be an expert at.
Financial Problems – Your money flow is the result of your continuous thoughts, which lead to your continuous emotions, and then to your continuous actions. But isn’t this true about everything in life? Financial problems can certainly lead to depression, but can be reversed for most people by applying what they already know.
Physical Illness – There is no doubt that clinical depression is a painful condition and oftentimes occurs in association with a severe physical illness. Not only can physical illnesses lead to depression – the opposite occurs as well, which makes recognizing and treating depression all the more urgent.
The Media – With the average American exposing themselves to the media for just over 5 and a half hours per day, it’s no surprise that this kind of exposure leads many into a state of depression. With the different messages being transmitted through the media that continuously reinforce aggression and other forms of risky behavior, it’s no surprise that the media inspires anxiety and fear. In addition, media exposure at night can disrupt sleeping patterns as well, whoich can result in an interference in our emotional and cognitive development.
Fear – It’s easy to get into a pattern of negative thinking that breeds fear. The biggest obstacle that stood in my way during my 6 year struggle with an anxiety disorder was the fear of failure, which led me to live a confined and fearful life. What I’ve come to understand is that to try something and fail, is not failure. But to not try at all, that’s failure. So if the fear of failure is adding to your depressive state, understand that regret weighs more heavily on your shoulders then failure ever will.
Now That We Know What Could Be Contributing To Feeling Depressed, What can We Do About It?
The emotions that you are feeling are nothing more then a feedback mechanism. For example, feeling the emotion of fear means that the solution will come by stepping out of your comfort zone in a slow and systematic way.
Feeling the emotion of isolation from others means that it’s time you changed your approach to the situation that is isolating you from others, and if financial problems are getting you down, become an entrepreneur and sell your expertise!
There is an answer to everything that is adding to your feelings of depression. All you need to do is find the specific thing that is causing it, and then listen to the feedback you are getting. I’ve learned that the worst thing you can do is play the victim, as is so easy to do so when depression strikes.
We get one shot at life and when the end comes I want you to look at your past and truly feel like you gave it your all each and every day!
By Dennis Simsek
The Anxious Athlete Creator: End The Anxiety Program