Deal With Stress

How to Deal With Stress Without Eating

stress-eatingNo matter how delicious Mom’s homemade cookies were, when we’re trying to learn how to deal with stress without eating, we may need to face that food does not equal love. That can be a difficult lesson to learn. After all, the people who cared for us probably cooked their way through every celebration or heartbreak of our young lives. We really did feel better when warm sugary goodies come out of the oven, not only for the taste, but because someone had baked them to make us happy.

As we grow up food helps us make friends in the world. We gather for pizza, we buy special snacks for the big game, we plan wedding cakes, learn to throw dinner parties, and deliver meals to soothe our neighbors’ illnesses or grief. Breaking bread is an ancient ritual that shows we belong, we care about each other, and we enjoy our shared lives. Plus, for women, good cooking traditionally showed you were competent, and supposedly knew the way to a man’s heart.

Sharing food can certainly be a joyful experience. But, if we don’t learn to separate the love from the goodies, we can find ourselves looking in the fridge for comfort every time we need a friend. Especially when we are under stress, food appears to offer pleasure and solace without any strings attached. It doesn’t ask questions or make demands. If we are not careful, though, we can abandon the sharing and start to deal with stress by turning to food alone.

Food as food tastes better than food as therapy. If you’ve ever had a mindless food binge to cope with stress, did you really taste much? Or did you sort of inhale anything you could find. Re-experiencing good food with an attitude of awareness teaches you to savor each bite, and allows you to be more truly satisfied.

Eating awareness can also be your first big step to deal with stress without eating. When we start renewing our relationship with food as food, it’s almost like we don’t want to waste something really tasty by only using it to relieve stress.

Idle hands will make you fat. Our bodies are made to move, and our hands seem made to be busy. But with modern society giving us so many opportunities to simply sit and be distracted, our hands don’t have much to do except endlessly move from munchies to mouth. Especially if we use mindless entertainment to try and deal with stress, heightening our zone-out experience with chocolate or chips just seems like a natural part of the process.

Instead, try learning something fun that requires using your fingers. If you’ve ever been so involved in a project that you lose all track of time, then you should recognize the no food opportunity here. Knit, crochet, play a musical instrument and sing, write real letters to long lost friends…even reading a book keeps your hands busier than staring at a screen.

Don’t look to cooking to find love. You may love cooking, and be able to pound a lot of stress out into various kinds of dough. But cooking in order to gain someone’s acceptance or affection is like trying to relieve stress by causing someone else to eat. Unfortunately, other people can never eat with enough gratitude to fill your need for love, and you can find yourself terribly let down if they don’t appreciate every mouthful.

If you enjoy cooking and don’t want to eat it all, consider giving your talent where it is really needed. Feeding those who are truly hungry is far more fulfilling than forcing food on people who are afraid to say no.

Food can be a joy and a blessing. Appreciating good food is a way to enrich our lives. And giving thanks for the food we have, can help us find better ways to deal with stress rather than by trying to eat our way through life.

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Meditation Methods

Using Beads to Focus Your Mind in Meditation

Teenage girl praying outdoors at twilight. Shallow DOF.If you have been exploring different meditation methods for a while, and find your mind wanders more than you would like, you may find using prayer beads can help you.

The use of prayer beads is an ancient practice among all the major religions, to relax the body while focusing the mind. Touching each successive bead as you recite a mantra or prayer continually brings your attention back to the present moment. And it is a gentle way to keep track of time, rather than subconsciously waiting for some annoying alarm to go off.

Prayer beads can be made of wood, seeds, gemstones, bone, or even knots of wool. Some who use prayer bead meditation methods chose stones they believe have physical healing properties. Others find that following the traditions of their faith, gives them an added sense of peace.

Choosing Your Beads
Different faith traditions have different arrangements and numbers of beads. Usually arranged in a circle, like a necklace or bracelet, most have a tassel, crucifix, or different size beads to indicate a starting and ending point for your prayer cycle.

Choosing beads from a tradition that has significance for you can add a special dimension. But no religious practice is required to use the beads as a meditation method.

Find beads that have aesthetic beauty to you, and that you like to touch. You may enjoy the smoothness of wood, or how gemstone beads change temperature in your hand. Holding the beads should bring you pleasure, so you will want to include them often in your life.

Choosing the Style
Prayer beads used in different faith traditions have a variety of styles you can choose from. A Buddhist or Hindu Mala usually contains 108 beads, so you can recite your mantra at least 100 times, with a few extra in case you miss some. The Tesbih used in Islam contains 99 beads, to repeat the 99 names of God, with smaller versions of 33, to recite three times.

Within Christianity, the Orthodox Chotki uses 100 beads or knots, while the Roman Catholic Rosary contains five groups of 10 beads, called decades, divided by larger beads, and with five extra beads and a crucifix separate from the circle. There is a meditative prayer cycle for the Rosary, but the beads are used for a variety of other prayers, such as the Chaplet of Divine Mercy.

Lesser known in Christian tradition is the Anglican Rosary of 33 beads, and the Pater Noster Cord of 150 beads which are not joined in a ring, and are said to have been created by 8th century Irish monks to recite the Psalms.

Choosing Your Prayers or Mantra
Whether you follow a religious practice or not, you can choose the numbers of beads that suit you best, and use them with whatever prayer or mantra you find most helpful. By repeating Om, the Lord’s Prayer, a healing phrase, or other words of meaning while moving the beads, you may be able to center yourself more easily, while you relax both your body and your mind.