I recently read advice from a dermatologist, to throw away our magnifying mirrors. It seems we stare into them and hunt for flaws that no one else would ever see. As a result we harm our skin far more than if we just left it alone.
What about our other flaws? Do we magnify those in our minds the same way? Chances are we stare and analyze until we find what we are looking for. Aha! There it is; an emotional wrinkle. A sag in your career path. The flabby spot in your relationships.
The truth is, your mirror is not your friend, even when it’s an imagined one. It’s okay for a quick glance to make sure your clothes are on straight. But basically everything a mirror tells us is backwards. What you see all depends on your point of view.
Want a true reflection of how great you are? Ask your dog.
Even if you don’t have a dog, you probably know what I mean. Animals love without any judgment. They don’t care about your social standing, your IQ, or your jeans size. When you look at your reflection in their eyes you see the same amazing person they know you to be.
Pets have total faith in us. They believe we can do anything we want to, and I wonder if they sometimes wish we’d just stop worrying so much and have more fun.
What if we could see ourselves as our pets do?
Just imagine if we accepted the truth in how our pets see us. Maybe they know something we don’t. If we simply decided to believe what they see, wouldn’t we feel stronger, braver, and more full of bliss?
If you don’t have a pet, you can still conjure up the feeling.
Most people can remember a friendly dog from some time in their lives. And even cats consider you an equal on their exalted plane. If you don’t have a pet, just imagine the total devotion they feel, and try loving yourself the same way.
There is a wonderful dog food commercial that you may have seen. A female soldier comes home after a long tour oversees, and her giant Irish wolfhound has been waiting patiently for her return. When he sees her, the dog erupts with joy.
On his hind legs the dog is taller than she is. And at the end the soldier is lying on her back on her driveway, with the enormous hound covering every inch of her with love. If ever there was a real life picture of “I love you this much,” this is it.
Our bliss comes from letting ourselves be loved.
Many faith traditions talk about divine love, as well as the love we should give. The moment we accept being loved without reservation, we can let go of our imagined flaws and just rest in how good it feels.